If I had trusted my gut 3 months ago, I would not have applied to my current internship.
In 2014, Hewlett Packard conducted an internal survey where they found that “women applied … when they believed they met 100 percent of the qualifications listed for the job. Men were happy to apply when they thought they could meet 60 percent of the job requirements” Kay & Shipman, The Confidence Gap, The Atlantic.
My name is Alexandria, and I am a Marketing Coordinator at EXL Service, a B2B analytics agency based out of New York. An anomaly, I applied to my current position despite only meeting 93% of the qualifying factors. As a female in the workforce, I interpreted the missing 7% as a clear indication that I did not qualify for the role. Yet, likely by some sort of divine intervention, I dismissed that gut instinct and submitted my CV.
Despite the position falling into place, I initially struggled to feel worthy (7% unworthy, to be exact). Discontent, I took my woes to Google, where I came across Kay and Shipman’s The Confidence Gap. They concluded, “Success, it turns out, correlates just as closely with confidence as it does with competence.” This triggered an epiphany – I was not underqualified, but worse, under-confident. Shedding my diffidence was no small feat – it required several months, numerous mistakes, and exceptionally patient mentors. With that said, I now feel confident, even proud of myself and my abilities as a budding professional, which I attribute to 3 core practices:
- Surround yourself with successful women
As motivational speaker, Jim Rohn so famously stated, “We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with” – so choose wisely (literally). Surround yourself with the five wisest/kindest/brightest/[insert desired trait here] women you know.
- Practice a work/life balance
The only right balance is the one that keeps you sane. Sunday night may be the new Monday morning, but only if you let it. Do what fulfills you, not what your colleagues deem acceptable.
- Don’t trust your gut
If I had trusted my gut three months ago, I would not have applied to my current internship. This is not to say I dislike my position, in fact, it is beyond my wildest expectations, which is also why I found it so daunting. Self-doubt likes to disguise itself as intuition – do not be deceived.
Ultimately, as a woman, it was never a matter of being under-qualified. It was the misconception that we must be over-qualified in order to simply level with our male counterparts. With the right mindset, we can finally see what our many skill sets bring to the table: not only are we often qualified for the job, but we are extraordinarily good at it, too.